Feeling Betrayed and Powerless? Do you want to forgive someone and just don’t know how to move forward? Are you feeling betrayed and powerless, numbed by pain and suffering from the betrayal by a loved one or friend, or the devastation of infidelity? Are you emotionally alone and helpless, not sure what to do because your heart is broken? Have you betrayed or deceived someone you care about and want forgiveness? Do you need to forgive yourself for acts intentional or un-intending that have created grief or hurt? Have you granted others permission to treat you in ways that are detrimental to your well-being? I experienced what you are going through and am now dedicated to helping anyone experiencing the depths of betrayal and anguish. I offer my story and the steps that were necessary for me to endure, survive, and ultimately thrive. A deeply spiritual person who believes we create our own destiny, I feel the mark of your character is how you behave in adversity. During a time of extreme anguish the Progressions of Forgiveness emerged as I learned to walk in dignity and live in serenity and harmony, free from the pain of the past. You will too! |
A vision of Jesus, standing on battered stone steps at the ruins of Ancient Pisac in Peru, changed my life and showed
me the power of love and forgiveness. Wearing a beautiful white robe and emanating an aura of absolute peace and
serenity, Jesus opened his arms wide and said, “I am opening my heart and sending you my heart filled with
unconditional love.” His presence was palpable and I could feel an amazing sense of love and peacefulness enveloping
me. Even now I can close my eyes and see the vision, reawaken the feelings and sense his powerful love. That perfect
moment embodied “a peace that surpasses all understanding”—it is a profound feeling, not a mere idea or thought.
I am blessed to have seen Jesus many other times since that life-altering day and to have been given several profound
ideas that have become the guiding principles by which I try to live my life and walk my spiritual path. Jesus spoke
about the need to be forgiven, echoing words from the prayer of St. Francis: “It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.”
He said it is by faith and belief we are forgiven each day in which we truly desire God’s forgiveness. The capacity of
the Divine Creator to forgive us is limitless, boundless, eternal, and unending. All we need do is ask and it will be
given freely, abundantly, unconditionally, and lovingly.
The ability to ask for forgiveness and accept we are worthy to receive it prepares us to extend forgiveness to others.
Learning to forgive based on an expanded awareness allows us to practice the most liberating form—unconditional
forgiveness. What is unconditional forgiveness and why am I writing about forgiveness; what gives me the right to
share the path to manifesting unconditional forgiveness?
I have experienced the depths of sordid betrayal and the empowerment of loving and forgiving. There are
progressions we all go through in recovering from pain, particularly the pain and humiliation of being deceived by
those who profess to love us. The object is not just to survive betrayal; it is to live each day free from the past,
becoming a more loving person, and ultimately to thrive. Regardless of the outcome of a painful experience of being
let down by another, we must find peace and extend forgiveness to move forward and not remain atrophied in
rejection, fear, anger, bitterness, or resentment. Unconditional forgiveness is giving yourself the gift of freedom from
the past, living in allowance, and released from emotional bondage.
Never in my wildest dreams, or rather nightmares, did I ever think I would be writing about and sharing insights into
surviving betrayal and living forgiveness. My husband and I were together for over 28 years when the knowledge of
his affair surfaced. I never believed the old adage "The Spouse is the Last to Know" until then. I think it is because
we (the wife, husband, partner, etc.) really live in denial and don't want to believe it is happening. But it did. It was
bad enough he was unfaithful, but is was with someone who was supposed to be a good friend of over 15 years. When
she didn't have a job, I brought her into our business to help her out. Instead she decided to help herself to my
husband and my part of our business.
The shocking part of his betrayal was the absolute understanding we had before our marriage about the commitment
of fidelity and the agreement we constantly reinforced during the years that followed. I would have bet my life he
would never cheat on me—that's how positive I was. And when a couple of friends expressed concerns about their
relationship I vehemently defended both of them, arrogantly assuring he would not do that and she certainly never
would behave so ruthlessly.
I have never been so decimated by grief and pain as the day he finally admitted the entire truth of their tawdry affair.
Not even the loss of my mother (who I loved dearly) hurt as brutally as this. Thankfully I have wonderful and
supportive friends and amazing children who helped me through the roughest times and sustained me when the tears
flowed freely. The silver lining in my dark cloud is the profound appreciation I have for my family and friends, and
how much I value and cherish their friendship; I am truly blessed!
Life goes on even in the midst of chaos and pain. You are doomed to misery if you constantly dwell in the past and
are unable to see a future. The steps taken for recovery are chronicled in the Progressions of Unconditional
Forgiveness and explained in detail in the workbook and workshops. Please find the support of a spiritual advisor,
friend, or family member if you are seeking relief and need support and nurturing to become whole and find yourself
again.
I am happy now, by the grace of forgiveness and the power of love. As I experienced the progressions and learned to
walk in forgiveness, the absolute power and liberation that extending unconditional forgiveness generated is amazing.
You are elevated on your spiritual path and connect to your nucleus and God within from that selfless act. Freedom
from emotional bondage to the past allows us to live in joy and attract abundance. Before I left Peru and returned
home I called my husband to tell him about the vision of Jesus and what I learned about real forgiveness. I wanted
him to know in the event something happened to me, not only did I forgive him, but I trusted him and loved him
even more than before the affair. The emotional attachments were released and I felt such joy, peace, and harmony
because I “Let Go, Let God” and walked into the light.
A great relationship endures and survives adversity, grows from lessons learned, is blessed with the ability to forgive,
builds a stronger commitment, and thrives amidst unconditional love. Our marriage endured, survived, and thrives
today. You have the power to be a Surthriver™; whatever choice you ultimately make, you deserve to be loved and
dwell in harmony.
Peace, love, and light be with you.
| Drinda's Story: A Surthriver™ (She Didn't Just Survive, But Learned To Thrive) |
| My Experience of Unconditional Forgiveness Manifested |
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